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Do's and Dont's of swinging and swingers directory, more of these for different groups are on the forum
SWINGERS DO’S AND DONT'S
First the Do's
Try new things, be open minded
Communicate with each other
Keep your partner’s comfort and security in mind at all time.
Don’t rush: Don’t do something just because everyone else around you is doing it. This is a lifestyle and you have your whole life to enjoy it! One step at a time.
Set limits and Stick to it
Wear something sexy: this is especially important for us women to feel sexy. It boost our confidence and help us be more aggressive
Be polite and considerate: even when rejecting someone, do it respectfully.
Have a drink and mingle: try talking to people. Not necessarily people you would be interested in but even those you are not.
Ask questions…
Read other people’s profile: don’t just look at the picture and rush to answer. Make sure you are compatible… this will save you time and translate to less rejections.
Make sure you are clean.
Be sure to use protection. This should not be negotiable.
Be honest and describe yourself objectively.
Send your own photo - not someone else's who is better looking than you are.
Tell the truth about your age. They will find out when you meet and it may be embarrassing.
Respond to all those who take the time to contact you. If you are not interested, say so nicely.
Send photos back to those who request them.
Relax and have a great time!
Now the Dont's
Don’t do anything you and/or your mate are not comfortable with “just to fit in”
If it does not feel right don’t do it.
Be afraid of rejection and let that be a barrier from approaching others.
Don’t be too aggressive or overpowering.
Do it without condoms.
Don’t get drunk, loud or pushy.
Smoke around people who don’t.
Don’t lie about yourself, your looks, your age or your status.
No means no. Respect their boundaries and they will respect yours.
Don't have pre-conceived expectations as you may be disappointed.
Don't go to a party in someone else's car. You want to be able to leave if you aren't happy.
Don't take someone else's word as gospel for who you will find appealing make your own mind up.
SWINGERS DICTIONARY
AC/DC: - Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sexual activity. Bi, bisexual.
Adult: - Euphemism for pornography.
Adult Play: - Sex play or swinging.
Airtight:-Involves one woman and three men. The woman has one man in her mouth, one in her pussy and one in her ass.
American Culture: - Missionary position - man on top.
Anal Intercourse: - Sometimes called ‘Greek’.
Analingus: - Oral stimulation of the anus of one partner by the other.
Arts: - Euphemism for cultures or fetishes.
BBW- Big beautiful women.
B&D: - Bondage and discipline. A sexual fetish in which the ‘Dominant’ partner uses restraints such as leather straps, ropes, chains or cloth to tie the ‘Submissive’, who is a willing sexual participant.
Can Entertain: - Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.
Can Travel: - Advertiser willing to travel to your home for swinging.
Caning: - A spanking fetish using a light cane.
Cheating: - Sexual activity with others without consent or knowledge of spouse.
Clean: - Related to personal hygiene and being free of sexually transmitted diseases.
Closed Swinging: - Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms in the same house.
Closet Swinger: - A person who hides that he or she is a swinger.
Couple: - In swinging, a man and woman who may be married, may live together or may be a single couple dating for swinging purposes.
Couple: - Euphemism for Fetishes or the Arts.
Cunnilingus:-Stimulation of the clitoris or vagina by the mouth.
D/D Free: - Drug and disease free.
Dildo: - An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina or the anus.
Director: - The person who operates a swing club.
Discipline: - A sexual fetish in which the Dominant partner subjects the willing Submissive partner to physical punishment. Can range from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.
Discretion: - The exercise of caution among swingers when sending mail or speaking on the phone so that children, friends or family are not made aware of swinging activity.
Docile (Submissive): - Willing to submit to bondage and/or discipline.
Dominant: - The sexual partner who controls the willing Submissive partner.
English Culture: - Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning.
Exhibitionist: - A person who is stimulated by showing sexual parts of his or her body and enjoys being watched while performing sexual acts.
Facial: - Cumming on the face.
Fellatio: - Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth.
Fetish: - Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects and actions or non-sexual parts of the body.
Flagellation: - Sexual stimulation derived from pain - usually spanking or whipping.
French Culture: - Oral-genital sexual activity.
‘Friends First’ Swingers: - People who prefer to get to know others before having sex by engaging in some form of non-sexual activity.
Fun and Games: - Euphemism for sexual activity.
Gang Bang:-One woman having sex with many men.
Group Room: - Room set aside for group sex - usually with wall to wall mattresses.
Group Sex: - Sexual activity between three or more people - swinging.
Hard Core: - A swinging get-together where sexual activity is expected.
Hedonist: - A individual who lives for pleasure.
Hung:-Refers to a man with a large penis.
Indoor Sports: - Refers to swinging activities in general.
Interested in Friendship: - A swinging relationship that is not limited to sex but includes social activities as well.
IRL: - In Real Life - used in ads or online chat.
ISO: - In Search Of.
Marital Aids: - Vibrators, dildos, other objects used for sexual pleasure.
Masochism: - Sexual gratification derived from receiving pain or being humiliated by others.
Master/Slave: - Participants in a Bondage and Discipline sexual relationship.
Matroom: - Room set aside for group sexual activity.
Meet for Pleasure: - Desire to meet for swinging sex only with no social or other activity wanted.
Menage A’ Trois: - Three people in a swinging activity: two of one sex, one of the other.
NASCA: - North American Swing Club Association. Promotes swinging as a viable and beneficial lifestyle.
Newcomers (Newbies): - First-timers in swinging.
Off-Premise: - A party or club where people go to meet and greet. No swinging takes place on the premises.
On-Premise: - A club where meeting, socializing and swinging can all take place.
Open Swinging: - All sexual activity takes place in the same room - whether it be groups or couples.
Orgy: - Sexual interaction between several men and women in the same room; group sex.
Party: - Three or more people getting together for swinging.
Party Clothes: - Clothing specifically worn to swing parties. Lingerie, robes, etc. that are revealing and easily removable.
Party House: - Swing club that has a regular schedule of on-premise swinging parties. No membership offered or required.
Passive: - Docile and submissive in swinging.
Play: - Euphemism for sex or sex play.
Pro: - Prostitute or paid escort.
Recreational Swinger: - Someone who practices swinging strictly as a diversion with no desire for friendship.
Restraint: - Mild bondage used in acting out sexual fantasies.
Roman: - Orgies, group sex.
Rubber: - Sexual stimulation through the use of rubber usually used in B&D. Also, a condom.
Safe Word: - Specific word or phrase agreed upon by a couple to let the other know when level of discomfort experienced in B&D.
Single: - Swinger without a partner - married or single.
Social: - Gathering sponsored by swing club or magazine for swingers to meet and greet. No swinging on premises.
Soft Swinging: - Same room sex with someone other than partner where all activities may be experienced with the exclusion of intercourse.
Straight: - A person not interested in homosexual activity or does not use drugs - also used by swingers to refer to a non-swinger.
Submissive: - One who desires to be dominated.
Swapping:-Two couples exchange partners for sexual activity.
Swing Magazine: - Caters to the swinging community. Carries personal ads for swingers wishing to meet like-minded others.
Threesome: - Two of one sex, one of the other for swinging activity.
Ticket: - A female brought to a swing party by a male to allow him to gain entrance. She usually has no intention of participating in sexual activity.
Transvestite: - A man who is sexually stimulated by wearing woman’s clothing - not necessarily homosexual.
Versatile: - Bisexual.
Voyeur: A person who enjoys watching others engaging in sexual activities.
